This is the most common frustration I get from parents.
We were the same. We asked nicely, repeated ourselves, nagged, scolded, and finally, lost our patience and started yelling.
It was a slippery slope, and the shouting went on for years.
With Kate, we have been given a second chance and have finally learnt to parent right, after making so many mistakes with the 5 older kids.
Everyone thinks Kate is such a sweet child, and indeed she is thoughtful and caring.
However, she wasn’t always like that.
She had her tantrums like most other kids, and fake cried to manipulate us.
But we were all aligned in how we responded to her.
Me, the hubs, the 5 older siblings. We were consistent. No one gave in to her whining and prolonged outbursts.
And very quickly, by the age of 3, she was super easy to manage.
I am passionate about sharing the parenting knowledge I have amassed over the past 22 years as a mum, occupational therapist and parent coach because I have seen the damage we can do to our kids unintentionally.
The hubs and I had different discipline styles and we quarrelled a lot. He had a quick temper, and would shout at the kids when they misbehaved and sometimes even grabbed their toys, broke it and threw it in the bin. As much as they enjoyed playing rough with daddy, they also lived in fear of his temper.
Kate has been spared all of this because I handled her well and it never escalated to a point where he has to step in. In her opinion, “daddy doesn’t scold us” but the 5 older kids are quick to reply, “You are the lucky one. He used to yell at us all the time.”
If you are in the same position as we have been, struggling to manage your kids, feeling exhausted and wishing things could be better, make time to join us in my next webinar:
3 easy ways to get your kids to do exactly what you want them to do without nagging, yelling or caning.
No more resorting to physical punishment, time out, threatening or bribing.
I know that parents are very busy, and my strategies are quick and effective to implement. All it takes is 10 minutes a day to make your home happier and more peaceful for everyone.
With the correct methods, your kids will respond well. Most importantly, we won’t hurt our kids emotionally which can be very damaging.
I know, because my older kids hold the wounds of all those years of anger unleashed upon them which they are carrying into their adult lives, and need help to process it.
Many of us refrain from caning, but yelling is also a form of verbal and emotional abuse. It creates a tense environment, which frightens our children and makes them insecure. Their behaviour becomes harder to manage and we find ourselves in a vicious cycle every day.
Parenting is tough, and there is no shame in asking for help. It is our responsibility to equip ourselves with knowledge and skills to be a better parent.
It is never too late to start now, the later we wait, the more damage could be done.
Come with your questions, we’ll have a Q&A at the end. I have been enjoying sharing with my readers live on my past webinars and look forward to seeing more of you soon!
Date: 9 July, Friday
Free, via zoom
Michelle Choy is an Occupational Therapist and mum of 6. She is also co-Founder of The Little Executive, a nurturing centre developing resilience and executive function in children. She is a Parent Coach and her signature Mummy Wee: Parenting Secrets courses help parents navigate this challenging journey. She is an Award winning blogger and is regularly featured on national TV, radio and print media.