I read about the double tragedy of a straight ‘A’s student committing suicide after hours of receiving her O level results because she had 2 ‘B’s, and of her heart-broken mother following suit 3 months later.
The pressure seems to be getting worse and worse for our children. On all fronts.
Just last week, some mums were talking about how a student from a top school had committed suicide.
We were very heavy-hearted and in an attempt to make sense of the situation, generalisations started surfacing.
“Grades are not everything. Better not put our kids in top schools. So stressful. Neighbourhood schools better.”
“But in mixed school will have BGR problems. Also headache.”
The common reasons for suicide in our children and youths seem to be disappointing parents with poor grades, family problems and relationship/bullying issues.
As we were quiet and letting it sink in, a friend shared something even more disturbing.
Her daughter was in the same school as the child who committed suicide and she was very concerned about how she has been affected. She raised the issue with her daughter and this was the reply.
“I’m ok mum. Like that lor. She committed suicide.”
Have our young people been numbed?
In this rush of life, of me, myself and I, of gadgets in our faces. Have we lost our connectedness with one another?
As our country turns 50, we have a lot to ponder.
Yes, our country is prosperous.
Yes, we have a lot to be thankful for.
But dig deeper. What do we find inside ourselves? Inside our youths?
We need to put a stop to the endless and mindless pursuit of more. Of one-upmanship. When will it end?
We need to come back to a life of contentment.
Lesson #5: Passion vs Family
Lesson #6: Finding our children’s gifts and talents
Lesson #7: Teach our children compassion by little actions
Lesson #9: What must kids do for us to stop pushing them over the edge?
Lesson #10: Who’s selfish? The kids or me?
Lesson #11: Confronting death teaches you about life
Lesson #12: To measure our lives in love
Lesson #13: The day they fly
Lesson #14: Do our kids even know we love them?