Kate’s antics: What a strange cat

Kate loves dogs. Don’t ask me why, as we don’t own a dog. However, everyday, she will walk down our street and say hi to many of the neighbours’ dogs. The dogs will scamper to their gates and greet her with happy barks. This is the first time she has come into close contact with a cat.
“Hi, cat. Come here.”

She was puzzled as to why there was no barking from the cat.

“So strange, mom”

She decided to play hide and seek with the cat.

“Found you!”

Then the cat started contorting as it tried to scratch itself.

“What’s he DOING!?”

She had enough of the cat and went in search of her familiar doggie friends.

“There, mom. I found a dog!”

~ mummy wee – a blog on parenting 6 kids in Singapore ~

SunSnack Roasted Sunflower Kernels

I wanted to add some sunflower seeds into the kids’ diets as these tiny seeds are packed full of nutrients such as folate, vitamin E, minerals and phytochemicals. I bought some organic ones but sadly, the kids didn’t quite take to the bland taste. So when I was offered the opportunity to try some cereal-coated and flavoured sunflower seeds, I was delighted. The verdict? The kids loved the seaweed flavoured one.

$4 per box (12 sachets in a box)

SunSnack Sunflower seeds comes in 3 different flavours: Original, Seaweed and Anchovy. Kate clamoured for her share too so we allowed her to eat some of the Original flavoured ones. The kids loved the Seaweed flavour as it has more taste than the original one. The Anchovy one is mildly spicy (the younger kids found it slightly spicy, but the older ones liked it).

It can also be used as a topping. We sprinkled some of the Original flavoured seeds on our yoghurt, along with some blueberries and raspberries. Quick yet healthy breakfast to start the day.

Easy breakfast before school

I jazzed up our simple salad with some of the Anchovy flavoured seeds and it added a nice crunch.

These sunflower seeds can also be used as a healthier alternative to coloured sprinkles on ice-cream.
#5 had an excursion to the Butterfly park and he stated that, “Mrs Ng said we can only pack healthy snacks along. Yay, I can bring the sunflower seeds!”
Great for outings
Where to purchase:

1. Selected Sheng Siong Supermarkets

2. Either self-collect or get it delivered FREE for purchases of 12 boxes or more (you can mix the flavours). Call their hotline @ 6778 8218 or drop them an email to get your SunSnack!


          Allswell Trading Pte Ltd
          41 Sunset Way #02-05
          Clementi Arcade Singapore 597071
          Mon-Fri: 8.30am – 5.30pm
          Sat: 8.30am – 12.30pm

Email: service@allswelltrading.com.sg

Disclaimer: We were sponsored a carton of SunSnack sunflower kernels. All opinions are my own.

~ mummy wee – a blog on parenting 6 kids in Singapore ~

Lesson #12: When your son gets into fights in school

As my first 4 kids are girls, problems in school usually revolve around friendships and ‘girl-type’ situations which I can handle and advice them on. However when #5 entered P1 last year, it was a shock for me as it was the first time that I received calls from his teacher telling me he was getting into fights. I know that boys fight all the time, but you are never ready to hear that such things involve your own son.

He got into 3 fights last year, and this year, he’s already gotten into 1 or 2 fights (I’m losing track of his fights). I’m sure he’s sounding like a big bully, but actually, he is really tiny. He’s the shortest in class and most of his friends are a good head taller than him. So what happened?

The first time I got a call, it was because he was playing with a friend and his friend was accidentally hit by him. While waiting at the pick-up point after school, they have about 15 minutes before parents are allowed in. Bored boys, 15 minutes and ‘weapons’ can only mean trouble waiting to happen. The boy started sparring with him using their calligraphy scroll case, and soon enough #5 accidentally hit him on the ear and it bled! The boy’s mum only found out when she was showering him and noticed the wound, so she called the teacher to inform her. I was worried about the boy and asked if his mum wanted to speak to me. The teacher said she did not, as no one was at fault (although they shouldn’t have been playing with the scroll cases) and it happened accidentally. 

Shortly after that incident, his teacher called me again. This time, he had shoved a boy and he fell and scrapped his knee and again, there was blood. Apparently, the boy kept taunting him and called him names like ‘baby’ and ‘shortie’ until he lost it and pushed him. I had taught him time and again never to start a fight, but he said that the boy started the fight using words. I explained to him that using words and using hands was different. If he used words, you can only use words to tell him to stop. And if he were to continue, then learn to walk away instead of retaliating. 

The third time his teacher called me, I could tell that she was getting exasperated at the fights which were occurring with more regularity, and that it always involved #5. This time, some boys were playing ball, and the ball rolled to #5’s feet. In trying to retrieve the ball, the boy somehow shoved him. He probably assumed the boy did it on purpose (as it was probably from behind) and he shoved back. Somehow, it turned into a fight, and 3 boys started to restrain #5. In trying to free himself, he wrestled his arm away and it accidentally hit a boy square on the nose, and again, it started bleeding. So as the teacher put it, “Your son keeps getting into fights.” I felt so sorry for the poor boys, and every time, I asked if the parents wanted to speak to me, but they didn’t. 

All the hubs and I could do was to again explain to him that no matter under what circumstances, it is wrong to get into a fight, unless of course the other person is going overboard and there are no teachers or adults in sight and you have to defend yourself. We think that because of his tiny size, he uses all his might in a fight to try and prove himself. We tried using both the carrots and sticks method, by stating our punishments if he were to get into another fight, and also telling him his reward if he doesn’t get into anymore fights. It seemed to work, and he didn’t get into anymore fights last year.

However, this year he got into a fight. He fought with 4 boys and ended up scratching one of them quite badly. The strange thing was that after the fight during recess, they all returned to class and everything was back to normal. The boys were still best friends and when questioned by the teacher, nobody said that #5 started it and nobody even admitted that they were hurt in anyway. It was the girls who informed the teachers that 5 boys were fighting during recess, and that #5 started it. Apparently, they were all playing with a plastic bottle and one of the boys called him a cheater and said he was not following the rules. Somehow, that ended up in a fight. A friend who has 2 boys tell me that that’s how boys solve their problems. Have a problem? Fight it out there and then and then it’s settled. No hard feelings.

His teacher called me to inform me about it as per protocol. I told her honestly, the hubs and I don’t know how else to handle this. I asked her if there was a school counsellor and I would like him to see the counsellor. I would be more than happy to work with him and enforce any skills and strategies at home. She said there is and will arrange for it.

Sometime after that, I bumped into his VP in the corridors and I took the opportunity to speak to her as he was sent to her after the fights. She was grateful that I touched base with her and told me that I was doing the right thing. She had seen many boys in secondary school get into much worse trouble and by then, the boys are bigger, stronger and more defiant and it is extremely challenging to deal with them.

I think in Singapore, many people are still not comfortable with the idea of seeing counsellors or psychologists whether for ourselves or our children. I have spoken to many foreigners and they don’t see it as having any sort of stigma attached. They describe it as akin to taking our car for servicing, to make sure that everything is working properly and to deal with issues before they escalate. Sometimes, it is hard for us to see the problems and it helps for a professional to point it out and to work through the issues together.

#5 has just started seeing his school counsellor, so let’s see how that goes. And hopefully I won’t get anymore calls from his teacher.

Other Thursday lessons (which I’ve learnt the hard way):

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Kate’s antics: Shoe thief

Kate’s at that age where she loves trying on other people’s shoes.

“Let’s see… any unsuspecting kid left their shoe unattended?”

Spotted one!

“Ah, this shoe fits me PERFECTLY, plus it matches!”

The owner of the shoe was a really sweet boy. He came over to Kate and said ever so gently, “Can I have my shoe back, please?”

“Darn, those were awesome shoes”

No more unattended shoes around? Never mind. Spotted: Unattended skate scooter.

Let’s get it rollin’
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